Nonfiction: Philosophy, Spirituality
Everyday Dharma: 8 Essential Practices for Finding Success and Joy in Everything You Do by Suneel Gupta
I found this book while browsing the shelves at my local public library and I am so glad I did! Gupta explains that we are conditioned to believe in "arrival fallacy" - a belief that once we achieve the next step, whether that's a promotion, more money, buying a house etc., we will be happy. However, once the moment arrives, the happiness is short-lived and soon we find ourselves chasing the next moment. Over time it leads to burn-out, and stress coupled with the realization that outer success alone (wealth, job, social standing) rarely leads to inner success (happiness, fulfillment, well-being). Why? Because we are not living our dharma.
Dharma is a multifaceted concept from Indian religions (Hinduism, Buddhism, Jainism, Sikhism) meaning duty, cosmic law, righteousness, or the path to truth. It signifies living in harmony with the universe's natural order, fulfilling one's inherent purpose, and adhering to moral principles.
Gupta then explains eight elements of “everyday” dharma:
Sukha – Uncovering your essence. There may be societal expectations, judgement, or other people's priorities keeping you from who YOU really are. Your sukha never leaves you – through the way you express it can change over time.
Bhakti – Full-hearted devotion. Bhakti is less about devotion of time, and more about devotion of heart. We tend to focus too much on the number of hours we spend on a task and not enough on the QUALITY we bring to each hour.
Prana – Energy over time. Rather than letting energy seep out throughout the day, pool your prana, and then unleash energy the precise moment your dharma needs it most. Scheduling mindset versus scheduling time.
Upekha – Comfort in discomfort. To practice upekkha is to be unwavering or to stay neutral in the face of the fluctuations of worldly fortune. This reminds me of Viktor Frankl’s observations on his life in Nazi concentration camps: “The experiences of camp life show that man does have a choice of action … Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical stress.”
Leela – High play. Leela can also be translated as “divine play.” In other words, play, sport, or enjoyable pastimes are part of your divine plan – your dharma. Take time for leela.
Seva – Forget yourself to find yourself. The road to your dharma will appear when you turn your attention from serving yourself to serving others. As President Truman said, “It is amazing what you can accomplish if you do not care who gets the credit.”
Tula – Letting go and taking charge. Balancing and maintaining harmony by releasing control, accepting people and situations as they are, and finding personal peace.
Kriya – Action leads to courage. Without deliberate action, your dharma slips from hope to regret. Even if you can't see exactly what is ahead, take the first step. Instead of living with a map, live with a compass realizing you may need to take detours or create a new route. It is always better to fail at your own dharma than to succeed at someone else’s.
Each chapter is filled with real-life examples of “regular” people and famous people who have successfully found their dharma. Also included are some practical tips to help you live your dharma. One of the most touching quotes for me was this: "the meaning of life is to find your gift; the purpose of life is to give it away!"

Audiobook Nonfiction: True Crime
Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee, Florida by Mikita Brottman
Publisher’s Description: “On the face of it, Denise Williams and Brian Winchester had the perfect, quintessentially Southern lives. The two were hardworking devout Baptists and together, with their respective spouses, formed a tight-knit friendship that seemed unbreakable. That is, until December 16, 2000, when Denise’s husband Mike disappeared while duck hunting on Lake Seminole on the border of Georgia and Florida.
After no body was found, it was assumed that he had drowned and was consumed by alligators in a tragic accident. But things took an unexpected turn when Brian divorced his wife and married Denise. Their surprising marriage was far from happy and in 2018, he confessed to police he killed Mike with Denise’s help nearly two decades earlier.”
The whole story is in the title and summary description, so there's not a whole lot of surprises in reading the book. Guilty Creatures is scandalous with a lot of finger pointing, he said/she said, and betrayal. It's a moral lesson most people learn early in life - adultery and killing are wrong. Just get a divorce!!!

Fiction: Realistic Fiction
Nineteen Minutes by Jodi Picoult
NOTE: Initially, everyone seemed to praise “Nineteen Minutes,” a 2007 bestseller about a school shooting but now it tops a list compiled by PEN America of the books most banned in schools. It is banned in the Florida counties of Hernando, Marion, Polk, and Volusia. Of course I had to read it!
Peter Houghton would hardly be considered a typical seventeen-year-old teenager. Because one morning, he loaded his backpack with four guns, went to school and killed nine students and a teacher. The title refers to the astonishingly brief period that Houghton took to complete his brutal spree. Nineteen Minutes examines the genesis of that event and the people affected by it from every conceivable perspective - families, victims, survivors, witnesses, parents, friends, police, and the law.
Picoult expertly examines a myriad of issues - teenage angst; "in" crowds; drug use; bullying; teen sexuality; peer pressure; privacy; parenting - and creates a gripping fictionalized version of a tragic event that is difficult to put down. At the end of this astonishing tale, I predict many readers will feel sympathy for the convicted mass murderer while many will not. Picoult's amazing ability to present an issue from a wide variety of perspectives without herself being judgmental will at least give readers an understanding as to how such a horrific tragedy might come to pass! Highly recommended.

Fiction: Military Fiction, Historical Fiction, War
The Things They Carried by Tim O'Brien
“Vietnam was full of strange stories, some improbable, some well beyond that, but the stories that will last forever are those that swirl back and forth across the border between trivia and bedlam, and the mad and the mundane.”
The Things They Carried is a collection of linked short stories that provide a powerful portrayal of the experiences of American soldiers during the Vietnam War. The narrative is structured around the physical and emotional burdens carried by the soldiers, both tangible and intangible. The title story, “The Things They Carried,” serves as a foundation for exploring the weight of war, both literally and metaphorically.
“He would have explained to his father that none of these decorations was for uncommon valor. They were for common valor. The routine, daily stuff – just enduring – but that was worth something wasn’t it? Yes, it was. Worth plenty.”
The stories are characterized by a haunting realism that captures the complexity of the soldiers' emotions, relationships, and the moral ambiguities of war. O’Brien explores themes of death, trauma, and the enduring effects of war on the individuals who participate in it.
“When a man died, there had to be blame … You could blame the war. You could blame the idiots who made the war …You could blame the enemy … You could blame the people who were too lazy to read a newspaper, who were bored by the daily body counts, who switched channels at the mention of politics.”
This book is a contemplation on storytelling as well as the impact of war on the human psyche. O’Brien draws on his own experiences as a soldier in Vietnam to objectify his experiences and then carries them forward by inventing incidents to explain and clarify “the things they carried.” The nature of memory, the ethical dimensions of war, and the ways in which literature can illuminate human experience are fully evident in The Things They Carried. Excellent!